For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts. Isaiah 55:9
There is a growing trend to interpret God as an extension of ourselves. Emotion is the guide that is used. Haven't you heard the expression, "I refuse to believe in a God who would consign anyone to death"? Don't even try to tell them about God creating people who are meant to be destroyed, as in Romans chapter nine.
A good case can be made that God is now imagined as an extension of our earthly fathers. Dr. Clyde Narrimore proved this in a very scientifically designed experiment in Los Angeles County. As you think of your father, so you think of God. For those who do not know their fathers or who hate their fathers, this still applies. This, of course, is no way to understand God. It is 100% subjective.
The escape from this self centered way of thinking or imagining is to read the Bible. All of it would help, but as simple an effort as reading the Gospel of John or the book of Romans will give you a good understanding.
In her book The Death of the Grown-Up: How America's Arrested Development Is Bringing Down Western Civilization, Diana West addresses this mental state. There is no cure for this problem. I'm certain it will continue and even get worse.
There are no Bible prophecies about the church getting better in the latter days. It is as if the second law of thermodynamics applies even to the church.
Yet there is hope for individuals who grow up and stop thinking sentimentally, or hatefully. We can stop thinking of our way of looking at things, and see them through the eyes of God, as expressed in His Word.